California couples may be more likely to get a divorce if they have certain tendencies or characteristics. For example, some people catastrophize small incidents and file for divorce over minor issues only to turn around and withdraw the filing later. This can strain the relationship. Overvaluing material things can also be an issue, particularly in marriages where wives earn more than their husbands but believe that men should be providers in accord with traditional gender roles.
While it seems like taking care of a partner can be a good thing, in some cases, it can create distance. One person might be the perpetual caregiver, and he or she may have structured the relationship to not need anything from his or her spouse. Avoiding conflict can also be a bad sign. Couples need to bring conflict out into the open and talk about their issues.
Some people have fragile egos and need the attention of others, which could lead to infidelity. Other people are narcissists. These individuals often fail to see the reality of a situation and cast themselves as victims. People who are not full-blown narcissists might still be selfish enough to put a relationship in jeopardy. If one person perpetually puts him or herself ahead of his or her partner, this can eventually destroy the marriage.
These patterns of relating to one another can also make divorce negotiations difficult. However, couples might be able to work through their conflict regarding issues such as property division and child custody by using mediation. They may be more satisfied with the settlement they reach in this way instead of going through litigation. In a community property state like California, most of the property acquired after the marriage is considered shared property, and couples own it equally. However, if they negotiate, they do not have to split everything 50/50. They may be able to reach other arrangements that suit them better.